Many times in my life, especially recently, everything seems to be fated. The message that could clear off misunderstandings i want to send? It would be either no line, low battery or no credit. It happens too many times, too many times to be considered as a coincidence.
Would you agree with me that things happen for a reason?... Would you sometimes, think that if you have the chance, you would do things differently? Would you blame yourself for making mistakes that you regret? But do you know that, mistakes makes us grow stronger and better? How many of us are doing the things we like? Could it be just conincidence? Or you conclude yourself that everything that happens is not your fault?
"The thing always happens that you believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen"
Frank Lloyd Wright
We complain that we can't do certain things because... the usual reason is, its just the way i am..
Lets see how well we agree this (Example adapted from Andrew Matthew's: Follow Your Heart)
Get yourself and aquarium.Divide it in half with a clear glass wall,so now you have akind of fish 'duplex'. Now find a barracuda, and name it barry. Nest get yourself a mullet. (Barracuda eats mullet) Put one fish on each side. In a flash, Barry,will head for the mullet and..thump..hit the glass wall at full throttle. He'll turn around and come back for another shot....thump!
Iver a period of weeks Barry will het a very sore nose. Eventually, he'll figure that mullet hunting equals to pain, and quit chasing the mullet. You can then remove the glass wall, and guess what! he will stay on his side (bARRY) for the rest of his life. Barry will happily starve to death,with the mullet swimming just inches away. He knows his limits and he won't step outside them.
We humans, believes something different from others around us. We tend to disagree others that shares different opinion with us. WHY? because we believe we are right! Its our thoughts that made us believe that certain things are wrong and right. Andrew Matthew said, in order to reject certain negative thoughts, we must stop our should beliefs. People should treat me better. People should love me back, people should b more considerate. It might seem as a list of expectations, and everyone deserves to have their own expectations. But what if you don't. What if you don't have expectations. You'll be happier.
Should beliefs don't help us because reality don't understand should beliefs. THings are just the way they are..
Again an example from andrew matthews.
Lets say you believe that fathers should praise their children and give them lots of presents. WHenver your's doesn't, you'll get upset. So you want to change father. Most people never consider the alternative solution: WHich is change beliefs.
To see things differently, you don't need willpower, self confidence or brain surgery. You just need courage to think the unfamiliar. Next time when you're angry, remember that not so much people makes u sad, as your beliefs. Whatever thoughts that are causing you paiN,they are only thoughts. You can CHANGE A THOUGHT
try searching Andrew Matthew's book in the bookstore. I fell in love with his works. He's a great cartoonist and he gave me lots of insights...
He had enlighten me at all different aspects. And he made me learn about myself and others
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